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My advice would be no… January can be the hardest month.   Grey days, overdrafts, low energy, more stuff and clutter to fit in at home.  January is the highest month for disatisfaction and the peak of divorce applications.     However many of us start the month with firm resolutions to change our lives.    I have heard recently “I am… detoxing/ joining a gym/ whitening my teeth”  the majority of people tend to focus on the external self to feel good.  To get lasting and continuious change I like to focus on the inner self.   Thoughts and beliefs to boost confidence and self esteem.    Without address your inner self all the best intentions and resolutions will result in the same behaviour patterns and then same results.    My 3 top tips for January….

1. Focus on what is good in your life – what are you thankful for and why…(friends, family, home, health etc)

2. What did you achieve in 2010?   For 2011 keep a note either weekly or monthly of your achievements it is a great motivator.

3. Going forward keep a file of thank you notes or emails of appreciation.   If you need a boost choose a mixture of 10 friends/family/colleagues send an email asking them what they perceive your 3 strengths or unique gifts to be.  It’s a wonderful eye opener.

Although January is a tough month it can be a refreshing time with hope for the year ahead.   For careers it is a time when the job market picks up and industry comes alive after the Christmas break.   Many new jobs are advertised and budgets change opening up opportunities for promotion. 

And finally if you really want to know how to change a behaviour or career direction get in contact.   I would be delighted to help you on the fast track to lasting success not just for January…. lynda@in-a.co.uk

Have a fabulous healthy and happy 2011.

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5:  Learn to negotiate – Most women need serious practise at asking for more money.  Remember, as long as you ask reasonably, your boss can only say no.  Don’t moan – argue for a rise on the basis of your performance.  Don’t threaten to resign if you don’t mean it.

6:  Be one step ahead – What objections will your boss have if you ask for more money?  Anticipate what will be said so that you have a good answer.

7:  Have a face-to-face – Ask to speak to your boss in person so you can both understand the situation and agree what can be done to change it.

8: Get some support – If a chat with your boss doesn’t work, talk to your female colleagues and gather support.  If you feel underpaid or undervalued, chances are others do too.  Lodge a complaint together.

9: Use the law – A trade union can help you fight for equal pay.  They’ll negotiate on your behalf and take legal action if necessary.

10: Be positive – Never apologise for asking for more money, believe in yourself. If you believe in yourself others will to.

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Have you ever been double booked or invited to two exciting things on exactly the same date?   Frustrating hey!  I have been invited to speak on the Ann Diamond show – BBC Berkshire at 12.00 today with Maria Millar MP.  Re: ” How to Get Women in Senior Positions and Influence.”  However I already have an important meeting with a new client today which I am excited about.   Keeping your commitments is important to maintain your credibility and reputation.   I do love doing the inspirational talks and debates but it just as important to me to demonstrate practically what I do best.  Showing others how to succeed in their professional roles . For business, my paying clients are critical for enabling me to share my knowledge with a wider audience.  For which I am grateful.   How about making your  lunch time priority the Ann Diamond show today?  http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/playlive/bbc_radio_berkshire/

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Here is your first insight to the first step you can take to be a professional wonder woman and keep your sanity.

Step 1: Have greater influence by becoming more self aware

I have seen so many talented people who are unable to achieve their potential because they do not know how to influence themselves and others.

There are some people we find very easy to communicate with and there are others who we feel constrained and uncomfortable with. 

Often we believe that it is the other person who should change.  This may be true but will not get results! 

The only way we can move a relationship forward is taking responsibility for the outcome ourselves.

When you know how to be in rapport with all people then your world changes dramatically.

Here are 6 straightforward actions that you can do now: 

  1. Write down what would be the best thing that anyone could say about you. 
  2. List 5 qualities that you like about yourself. 
  3. Ask 5 other people from each area of your life:  What 5 qualities do you think I have?” and “What are the two habits/behaviours that I could change which would make me more effective?” 
  4. From the responses write down the opposite positive word to the habits/ behaviours identified.  For example, the positive opposite of untidy/disorganised could be tidy/organised etc, and then write “I am” in front of each of the positive words.  Remind yourself daily, saying these positive statements to yourself. 
  5. Do something that will prove that you have this quality.  For example, if you chose confident, you may want to do something that you have been delaying, such as making a phone call, speaking up at a meeting or declining a request from someone.
  6. Just before you go to sleep, write down everything that you have done that you are proud of each day. 

I have many straightforward ways in my Home Study Guide that will show you how to gain more self awareness, know yourself and how to connect with others to gain more influence. 

There are 6 more insights to steps to help you.  Some steps will give you immediate results whilst others will build gradually for the ‘light bulb moment’ to shine.

People are like stained glass windows.  They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within”   Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

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Great respect and congratulations to Gerry Hyde who works with us at Lead at Work.

Amazingly she gave birth to twins , a son and a daughter – without pain relief 3 days ago!  She still was able to call today and encourage us and do what she does do so brilliantly in her calm and unflustered way.   Congratulations to Gerry and Deon and welcome to this wonderful world Tayla and Zane.  Try and get some sleep Gerry.  With love from us all at Lead at Work and In-a Coaching x

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Write down affirmations:

  • I can handle whatever comes my way
  • I will find ways round the barriers
  • I will share with my supporters
  • I will feel the fear and do it anyway

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Professional Wonder WomanAs we move into 2010 why not purchase my home study guide “How to Be a Professional Wonder Woman and Keep your Sanity!”  ISBN 978-0-9563178-0-3
http://www.leadatwork.com

My early bird half price offer is only £32 (the retail price is £64.00) and as always comes with a money back guarantee.

Guaranteed to give you a confidence boost for 2010.

Packed with practical, step by step advice, exercises, top tips that work and a commitment plan.
 
You will learn how to:  

  • influence
  • have confidence in your worth
  • know what you want
  • have a strong will to succeed
  • use habits that work and stop habits that hinder you…
  • inspire others 

If you want any further information please do not hesitate to contact me via lynda@leadatwork.com.  I would be delighted to hear from you.

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