Success rarely comes to the passive or pessimistic …

Here is the next insight to the second step that you can take to be a professional wonder woman and keep your sanity.

Step 2: Find Confidence in Your Worth

Women who are successful are not blind to the global financial problems or the barriers that they face.

They just don’t see them as permanent.  Life goes in cycles.  Eventually this time will pass.  Be ready for the upturn in the economy.

I have found that the area of self worth and value is the most difficult for women. 

Here are 5 simple actions that you can do now: 

1. Be alone, quiet and still for 20 minutes.  What is your inner voice saying to you…? 
2. If there is a critical voice, quieten it down and soften it. 
3. Replace critical thoughts with a confident state (my guide will show you how) 
4. Counteract criticism of yourself by remembering actions that you have taken that demonstrates the opposite. 
5. Act the part

“There are many times that I sat in the board of directors meetings looking at a complicated set of figures and didn’t know what I was even looking at.  But I put on a good show.  Somehow I’d pull it off.  Afterwards I would ring a good friend who was a whiz at figures and learn for the next time.”

Did you know that women who love what they do and are earning high salaries feel afraid and nervous and have self doubt but do not let these feelings stop them?  In other words, they feel the fear and do it anyway.  They push beyond their comfort zone. 

 “Success rarely comes to the passive or pessimistic”  – Barbara Stanny – Leading Authority on Women and Money

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Beauty is revealed only if there is light from within…

Here is your first insight to the first step you can take to be a professional wonder woman and keep your sanity.

Step 1: Have greater influence by becoming more self aware

I have seen so many talented people who are unable to achieve their potential because they do not know how to influence themselves and others.

There are some people we find very easy to communicate with and there are others who we feel constrained and uncomfortable with. 

Often we believe that it is the other person who should change.  This may be true but will not get results! 

The only way we can move a relationship forward is taking responsibility for the outcome ourselves.

When you know how to be in rapport with all people then your world changes dramatically.

Here are 6 straightforward actions that you can do now: 

1. Write down what would be the best thing that anyone could say about you. 
2. List 5 qualities that you like about yourself. 
3. Ask 5 other people from each area of your life:  What 5 qualities do you think I have?” and “What are the two habits/behaviours that I could change which would make me more effective?” 
4. From the responses write down the opposite positive word to the habits/ behaviours identified.  For example, the positive opposite of untidy/disorganised could be tidy/organised etc, and then write “I am” in front of each of the positive words.  Remind yourself daily, saying these positive statements to yourself. 
5. Do something that will prove that you have this quality.  For example, if you chose confident, you may want to do something that you have been delaying, such as making a phone call, speaking up at a meeting or declining a request from someone.
6. Just before you go to sleep, write down everything that you have done that you are proud of each day. 

I have many straightforward ways in my Home Study Guide that will show you how to gain more self awareness, know yourself and how to connect with others to gain more influence. 

There are 6 more insights to steps to help you.  Some steps will give you immediate results whilst others will build gradually for the ‘light bulb moment’ to shine.

“People are like stained glass windows.  They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within”   Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

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Doing it Backwards and in High Heels …

In my experience, most women could make more money and have greater fulfilment in their work.

I understand that spare time is really precious and rare, so I am sharing some FREE daily straightforward and practical ways that can be integrated into your working day.  

They will help you to: 

• think differently
• focus on what works for you  
• be clear about what is essential and important and dump the things that are urgent but unimportant.

I want to be confident to know that “whatever comes your way, you can handle it”.

There are 7 steps in total.  Some steps will give you immediate results whilst others will build gradually for the ‘light bulb moment’ to shine.

If, in the meantime, you would like your own copy of the Home Study Guide, “How to Be a Professional Wonder Woman and Keep your Sanity” (ISBN 978-0-9563178-0-3), please follow this link http://www.leadatwork.com/homestudyguide.html

Your guide will help you to:

• Elevate your career
• Gain control of your life
• Become a better leader
• Be confident in knowing your worth
• Handle stressful situations
• Free up precious time to have a better work life work balance

It is an easy to follow step by step approach with guaranteed practical and immediate results.

“Remember, Ginger Rogers did everything Fred Astaire did but she did it backwards and in high heels”  

Faith Whittlesey 1939 – Lawyer and Diplomat

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Checklist of habits that work and hinder

You may find this list helpful to examine the Habits that Work and those that do not.  This Checklist may help you get started

Checklist of habits that work

• Looking for opportunities in everything you do and in everyone you meet
• Appreciating yourself and appreciating others
• Going the extra mile – pushing your boundaries
• Getting around barriers
• Feel the fear and doing it anyway!
• Having a low tolerance for low pay
• Finding role models who can teach you skills you lack
• Willing to challenge beliefs that do not work for you and try a new way of being
• Willing to trade comfort for a higher goal
• Focusing on what you want
• Willing to challenge the status quo
• Putting your own needs into the equation
• Writing down actions which will keep you on track

Checklist of habits that hinder

• Blaming others or the system
• Settling for less
• Having a high tolerance for low pay
• Believing that other people are more capable than yourself
• Having low self esteem
• Spending time on non-urgent, non-important things
• Spending time concentrating on the inadequacies of others
• Relying on others for what you want

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How to be a professional wonder woman and keep your sanity!

As we move into 2010 why not purchase my home study guide “How to Be a Professional Wonder Woman and Keep your Sanity!”  ISBN 978-0-9563178-0-3
http://www.leadatwork.com

My early bird half price offer is only £32 (the retail price is £64.00) and as always comes with a money back guarantee.

Guaranteed to give you a confidence boost for 2010.

Packed with practical, step by step advice, exercises, top tips that work and a commitment plan.
 
You will learn how to:  

• influence
• have confidence in your worth
• know what you want
• have a strong will to succeed
• use habits that work and stop habits that hinder you…
• inspire others 

If you want any further information please do not hesitate to contact me via lynda@leadatwork.com.  I would be delighted to hear from you.

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You can CHOOSE your reaction

“Remember no-one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” 
Eleanor Roosevelt 1184-1962

When we wake up to appreciating all parts of ourselves and choosing which parts are appropriate to us, then we have choice.  What a fantastic feeling to know that we are in control of what happens to us.  Other people are no longer pulling the strings, determining our happiness, our mood or energy levels.

You can choose whether or not to be affected by other people.  Of course, if they give you happiness, energy and create a lovely atmosphere, then great.  Really value and appreciate these wonderful people. 

Follow this simple exercise to remind you that you can choose your reaction:

1. Imagine that when people speak to you, there is an empty space in front of you that the words go into.
2. Imagine that you have armour strapped to you covering your heart, chest and stomach area.  Visualise what this looks like.  What is it made of?  What colour is it?  This armour can prevent the words touching you.
3. When someone speaks with you, imagine that their words cannot get inside of you unless you want them to.  This gives you choice and control.

If the words are sarcastic or hurtful in some way, then practice not reacting at all.  Not in body language or tone of voice.  Act as if you have not heard the words.  The other person then has no idea how you are reacting to their words.  Silence is very powerful in this situation. 

If you would like more tips and exercises please visit  http://www.leadatwork.com/homestudyguide.html and order your copy of my Home Study Guide – How to Become a Professional Wonder Woman and Keep Your Sanity.

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For the woman who wants everything…

As the first door of the advent calendars open, the countdown to Christmas beings, (my grandaughter Grace found a chocolate santa today).

What could you buy a woman who wants everything… try my home study guide
“How to Be a Professional Wonder Woman and Keep your Sanity!” 
ISBN 978-0-9563178-0-3
http://www.leadatwork.com

Add to your Christmas list, buy for friends and family or give yourself an early present!
 
My early bird half price offer is only £32 (the retail price is £64.00) and as always comes with a money back guarantee.

Guaranteed to give you a confidence boost for 2010.

Packed with practical, step by step advice, exercises, top tips that work and a commitment plan.
 
You will learn how to:  

• influence
• have confidence in your worth
• know what you want
• have a strong will to succeed
• use habits that work and stop habits that hinder you…
• inspire others
   

“This Guide has been really clear and refreshing. It will give anyone the tools to be able to step back from a problem and give them ideas of what to do.  A key challenge for women is having enough time. This workbook is broken down into small steps, and keeps you on track. I found the exercises clear, simple and they work with many “wow!” moments. I loved the simple statement “Remember that you can choose your reaction” and then showed me how to do this. In one section, I found myself laughing out loud. It got me into a creative mood and ideas started to flow in abundance.” Wendy Hart-Wilson, HR Manager BMW

During the busy Christmas season make sure that you enjoy yourself and keep your sanity!

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