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My advice would be no… January can be the hardest month.   Grey days, overdrafts, low energy, more stuff and clutter to fit in at home.  January is the highest month for disatisfaction and the peak of divorce applications.     However many of us start the month with firm resolutions to change our lives.    I have heard recently “I am… detoxing/ joining a gym/ whitening my teeth”  the majority of people tend to focus on the external self to feel good.  To get lasting and continuious change I like to focus on the inner self.   Thoughts and beliefs to boost confidence and self esteem.    Without address your inner self all the best intentions and resolutions will result in the same behaviour patterns and then same results.    My 3 top tips for January….

1. Focus on what is good in your life – what are you thankful for and why…(friends, family, home, health etc)

2. What did you achieve in 2010?   For 2011 keep a note either weekly or monthly of your achievements it is a great motivator.

3. Going forward keep a file of thank you notes or emails of appreciation.   If you need a boost choose a mixture of 10 friends/family/colleagues send an email asking them what they perceive your 3 strengths or unique gifts to be.  It’s a wonderful eye opener.

Although January is a tough month it can be a refreshing time with hope for the year ahead.   For careers it is a time when the job market picks up and industry comes alive after the Christmas break.   Many new jobs are advertised and budgets change opening up opportunities for promotion. 

And finally if you really want to know how to change a behaviour or career direction get in contact.   I would be delighted to help you on the fast track to lasting success not just for January…. lynda@in-a.co.uk

Have a fabulous healthy and happy 2011.

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Last month the BBC on it’s “can pay will pay” radio programme last month asked many people from a range of backgrounds “How much do you earn…?”  Reactions that the reasearchers received were * astonishing glares *polite refusals * evasive generalities * embarassed sniggers and  *silence.   Many of us do not want to reveal what we earn by we would be interested in what others earn.    From Oct 1st the new Equality Act promotes transparency around pay. 

To learn how to gain more confidence on your:

1. Earnings and how to negotiate,

2. Net worth and how to grow it

3. Finances and make them work better

4. Knowledge about your money get in control and drive your plan

I would love to meet and encourage you with a great group of women on either Tuesday 16th Nov 9.30 am – 12.00 or Wednesday 17th Nov 7pm to 9.30pm

http://buildandsafeguardyourwealth.eventbrite.com/

Is pay the last taboo – inspired by Bracknell midweek news

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5:  Learn to negotiate – Most women need serious practise at asking for more money.  Remember, as long as you ask reasonably, your boss can only say no.  Don’t moan – argue for a rise on the basis of your performance.  Don’t threaten to resign if you don’t mean it.

6:  Be one step ahead – What objections will your boss have if you ask for more money?  Anticipate what will be said so that you have a good answer.

7:  Have a face-to-face – Ask to speak to your boss in person so you can both understand the situation and agree what can be done to change it.

8: Get some support – If a chat with your boss doesn’t work, talk to your female colleagues and gather support.  If you feel underpaid or undervalued, chances are others do too.  Lodge a complaint together.

9: Use the law – A trade union can help you fight for equal pay.  They’ll negotiate on your behalf and take legal action if necessary.

10: Be positive – Never apologise for asking for more money, believe in yourself. If you believe in yourself others will to.

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According to the Media Queen at Marie Claire there are 10 points that we should get straight before we ask for a pay rise here are the first 5 to get you started…..

1: Find out how much you are worth – Get an indea of the market rate for your role by looking at job vacancies for similar positions online or in the papers.

2: Discover what your company pays – Approach your HR department for a breakdown of wage categories.  If you’re concerned, download a form that entitles you to request key information from your employers. Visit www.equalities.gov.uk

3: Make a stand – Have you done enough for a pay rise or highlighted what you have done well.  Your arguement will have more weight if you can be specific.

4: Believe in yourself – Act as if you deserve more money – firm belief in your own worth makes others believe to.

5: Learn to negotiate – Most women need serious practise at asking for more money.  Remember, as long as you ask reasonably, your boss can only say no. Don’t moan – argue for a rise on the basis of your performance.  Don’t threaten to resign if you don’t mean it.

Look out for the next 5 ….

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Can you afford not to get ahead?    With banks putting up their charges and the government cutting child benefit, many are being squeezed financially.

There are 2 choices:  1. Take the hit and feel the pinch  OR    

2. Choose to become more financially savvy

 I would love you to join the other women who have signed up to our supportive and  encouraging seminar, http://buildandsafeguardyourwealth.eventbrite.com/

It will give practical help to become more:

  • Financially savvy
  • In control of what’s happening to your money
  • Confident to react to market changes
  • Aware how to build up your net worth
  • Able to earn more – even in a tough market
  • Skilful at making your money work better for you

 Get smart about your money and in control of the life you want!

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It maybe said that it is a woman’s perogative to change her mind but the challenge is sticking with the change.    Our patterns of thinking are entrenched by our belief systems and our life experiences, shaped from the moment we are born.   So when we learn that a new way of thinking can be helpful to us how do we overcome our minds…?    I was encouraged to learn that even Moses  found a change of  thinking and a breaking of his old habits harder than speaking to Pharaoh, or leading the Israelites through the desert!   It is no easy thing to change the habits of an old man. Moses was eighty when he experienced extraordinary experience of challenges and miracles. But, like most of us, Moses was not willing to change his ways and routines for something he knew and understood very little about.   He doubted his abilities and skills as he described himself as slow of speech.

So the battle is in our minds, capture your thoughts and make sure they are positive and helpful.   This where our change happens.   

Inspired by Ellel 365 – daily inspiration.

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When we listen empathically, people feel understood and it changes the dynamics of the communication.  We are creating positive energy to enable both parties to seek consensus.  The most powerful communication is when we understand fully first, before trying to put our own views forward.  It takes patience and self control. 

This does not mean that we remain passive in the conversation.  You have set the scene for having the best chance to be heard.

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